Life with PTSD can often seem unbearable, uncertain, and out of control. There is recovery just around the corner through PTSD self help support, and determination. Although your loved one suffers one of the most challenging diseases does not mean they cannot control their PTSD symptoms. I felt helpless months ago as the storm of symptoms infiltrated my marriage. It wasn’t until my husband learned and truly believed he had 90% control over his symptoms and behavior that things started to get better.
It’s a hard pill to swallow to think that your loved one actually does have control over the rage, dissociation, depression, anxiety and the list goes on. Mostly because you and I have given our loved ones excuses for their behaviors, and they too made excuses. Therefore accountability may seem like tough love but it’s the only way to help your loved one really own their journey. PTSD self help, therapy, support, and resources are at your loved one’s finger tips.
PTSD Self help Support, and your Role
Self help begins with relieving your loved one from all crutches. Then see just how strong they’d be walking on their own two feet. Caring for your spouse and acting as a crutch are two separate things. Although caring for your loved one is instinctive you may actually cause more harm than good if you coddle them. Another hindrance is making excuses for them. At this stage, most likely there aren’t many boundaries set. As spouses, we generally do this naturally and with good intentions.
Once you have decided on boundaries that suit your situation you can start caring for yourself. In turn, your loved one will do the same. Your role in PTSD self help support is crucial for their recovery. A few boundaries that are healthy include the following:
- Set a bed time for yourself. It does no one any good to stay up all night with your significant other. You may feel that you are helping them through their symptoms. Contrary though, you are adding strain to your own needs.
- Call a “Time-Out. It’s great to be supportive but bad to allow stress to escalate your own anxiety during a PTSD episode. During a non PTSD attack, discuss with your loved one what the time-out is for and why it’s important to implement during PTSD. My husband and I agreed to a ten minute time-out when things get out of control. Now, your loved one will be in PTSD mode and will need to feel safe and reassurance. Tell them the two of you need a ten minute time-out and you will be outside (or wherever the two of you previously agree upon). Reassure them that the two of you will come back together at the end of ten minutes calm and supportive.
- Implement communicating that you have obligations to take care of and the days and times you will be taking care of things. This sets them up to care for themselves while you are gone. Which in turn shows them just how independent they really are.
Starting with these three small yet impact full changes will be a pivotal turning point in your relationship. After all, your ultimate goal is to foster a healthy and strong marriage. Be strong and keep in mind that you only have control over yourself. You can’t control what others say or how they behave. But you can control how it affects you and how you will react. Take back control over your life and enjoy your loved one again. Recovery and symptom remission is a beautiful experience.
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