PTSD pain and challenges stemming from ignorant people can either make us stronger, or on the other hand, cause worse harm.
This post has triggering content. I.E. Severe Symptoms, Hopelessness, Depression, Invalidation, Reminder of PTSD Diagnosis, Suicide, PTSD pain and suffering.
Often times I am honored to connect with really fantastic people facing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
This includes individual PTSD survivors, Spouses with a partner who has this invisible disease, and friends and other members of the family. Due to the fact that I dedicate time to my social media channels; Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and Quora, I meet so many people affected by PTSD. Directly and indirectly. Then again, there are still so many that I meet who haven’t even heard of PTSD. Either way, I am very passionate about increasing awareness of PTSD pain, and support, and by the same token, I absolutely love my role as a mentor to spouses and significant others.
There’s a small handful that still reach out to me via private messaging on PTSDWifey’s Facebook page. Generally, when they are distressed, as well as wanting to share positive experiences with me. I hear some of the most heartwarming stories. And providing someone a beacon of light when they find themselves so lost they can’t see, is rewarding – It’s what PTSDWifey was created for.
Connecting to Others Helps Alleviate PTSD Pain
Sharing our personal experiences, good and bad, makes the feeling of isolation less dominant, because, hey, you truly aren’t alone, and more importantly others who speak the same English! They know exactly what you are talking about, going through, and understand PTSD pain, symptoms, relationship know-how, and you without any judgments.
Try and make a few new connections on social media within three days. Here’s how it’s done. Facebook, Twitter, Quora, Instagram, and Pinterest all have a “search” feature. Simply type in the search bar “PTSD” and share what you found that could benefit our PTSD community. Just click back on over this way and post what your experience was like in the comments below this article.
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Recent Encounter on Quora
Just last night I logged into my Quora account. For those of you who aren’t familiar with this app/site, it’s a place where anyone can post whatever question they want answered. Then it’s up Quora’s community of 100 million monthly visitors to chime in with their expert advice or respectful opinions.
As a frequent visitor, I’ll receive notifications that someone has requested that I answer their posted question. Most of the questions that requests an answer from me usually relate to blogs, digital marketing, or PTSD and CPTSD. Either way, providing answers is like helping someone at a different stage in their career, journey, or marriage, you name it! As long as I am familiar with the topic, that is.
Q & A on Quora
Anyway, I got onto Quora to check on a few questions I previously posted to see if anyone left an answer. During this process I read an answer from a person that was so thoughtful it motivated me to visit his profile. At that point I skimmed through his listed questions he had provided answers to. The first one really touched my heart. Quick to follow were tears filling my eyes because it was as if he were describing my husband -to the “T“!
I feel compelled to share this with you, along with my comment posted responding to him. He is just so transparent and honest about his PTSD Pain. The following content may be ♡TRIGERRING♡ for some. However, the post is both heart-wrenching and inspiring at the same time. Proceed with caution.
Q. Have you seen someone suffer with PTSD?
Mr. PTSD Pain’s Answer:
(I changed his name for privacy). Every day, every night, and sometimes in the afternoon. Poor schmuck never had a chance.
I look at him in the mirror every goddamned day, and I see the darkness and dead eyes. I live with the memories and the symptoms of the illness. It isn’t just triggers and nightmares. It’s never being able to relax, never being able to trust, and always being ‘on’ even in the safety of your own home. It’s lost time, lost memories, and wondering if the world around you is even real. It’s being afraid constantly, and isolating yourself from the world so you can control your environment and protect yourself.
It’s a plunge back into the worst days of your life at any stimuli that reminds of the triggers, it’s not being able to go near churches because doing so causes you to enter an intense fight or flight mode, it’s losing friends who don’t get the illness, and it’s a lifetime of pain because someone was too goddamned selfish to do her job correctly.
PTSD is missing pieces of your soul because a little girl died right before your eyes, she was your best friend, and you dream of her every night. Almost fourteen years later and you still grieve her death as if it were yesterday.
PTSD is a wound upon the mind, the body, and the soul. A testament to hell survived, and having to live with the consequences.
That’s PTSD and what it’s like to suffer with it. For me at least.
My Response: A Man Drowning in his PTSD Pain
Hello Mr. PTSD Pain,
My husband has PTSD and something you described resonates all too well:
“It isn’t just triggers and nightmares. It’s never being able to relax, never being able to trust, and always being ‘on’ even in the safety of your own home. It’s lost time, lost memories, and wondering if the world around you is even real. It’s being afraid constantly, and isolating yourself from the world”.
This describes my hubby to the T. However, he does experience stints of time where his symptoms seem to in “remission”. But, eventually the come back again. And the dissociative body mutilating starts, transitions into delirium, then evolves into complete psychosis having audio and visual hallucinations. Right this second he is in a delirium stage. As I sit next to him commenting on one of the most honest description of PTSD pain and suffering.
I understand that not everyone with PTSD experiences the same symptoms, I was just compelled to comment to your post. My heart broke reading your feelings. You are not alone. And, although that doesn’t make your pain any less painful, hopefully you can validate that you are not crazy, nor have you lost your mind.
I tell my husband all the time that these things are going to happen (episodes). And its okay. That I don’t feel he is insane and that these moments will pass. Until they do, I will comfort him the best that I can, and keep him safe feeling loved and not judged.
Thank you so much for sharing a peek into your life with us. It made me feel less isolated. Hang in there brother.
PTSD Pain, Triggers, and Ignorant Jerks
Then, because I am such a curious person, I read the next question listed which he also answered. Essentially, I enjoy learning from other PTSD survivors. Plus, this next, question that someone asked, was so ignorant and and flat-out reckless.
Q. “Why is it wrong to say mental illness doesn’t exist? –
Mental illness is non-existent. it’s pretty much baseless, is not really based on “mental distress” but not being normal. Normalcy is pretty much subjective, so it’s pretty much false.”
Mr. PTSD Pain’s Response
Mental illness is baseless huh?
You’ve gotten plenty of factual and informative links. I’m not going to bother. Instead I’m going to give you the perspective of someone who suffers from Mental Illness (MI) and is actually disabled by it.
Yes that’s right. The thing you call “baseless” and “nonexistent” has made my life very small and very dark at present.
I’m guessing you’re someone who has never experienced mental illness, never had a loved one go through mental illness, or been around someone who is seriously mentally ill in any way. That puts you in a very distinct minority. Many people have the painful experience of living with or watching a loved one live with MI, and I hardly think they’d call it basis. Instead I think they’d call in hell on earth, and give anything to make it go away. People die because of mental illness. Suicide is a very very common cause of death for those of us with MI of some sort.
Even if they don’t die, do you know what it’s like living with depression, PTSD, or other MI? It can be a goddamned nightmare if untreated, and very difficult even with effective treatment. They’re illnesses for a reason, and most mental illnesses have no cure at present.
Yes, I said us. I’m one of those poor souls who you think have been deluded into thinking they’re sick when it’s obviously just being “not normal.”
I have two diagnosed chronic illnesses which cause seriously debilitating symptoms rendering me unable to work.
As anyone who knows me will tell you, I loath not working. Yet at the moment, I barely have the energy to shower, shit, and get out of bed, and I do good to not drink myself into an oblivion to cope with the PTSD pain. I live in hell more days that not, and I’m exhausted even more often than that. I relive the worst days of my life, I’m constantly afraid, and I’m very reclusive because I don’t trust the world and people. I don’t sleep, and I see my best friend die every night in my dreams.
My mood is constantly black, I live with guilt and shame, and many many more symptoms.
I’d hardly call my daily suffering and exhaustion baseless. What you’ve asked here is vile, hateful, and so factually incorrect it’s ludicrous. You need to do some serious research before posting anything on MI again, and probably not even then. Do you know how many people hear this shit day in and day out, and believe it? How it drives people not to support those of us with mental illness?
Congratulations OP. You’ve become part of the problem.”
Suffering PTSD Pain is Very Real
Wow! Mr. PTSD Pain did such a terrific job validating those of us living with a mental illness. The nerve of the person who posted that question. More so, it was extremely reckless and obviously ignorant. Seriously though, someone could see something like that posted and it be their last straw. Anyone with PTSD, Depression, Traumatic Brain Injury, or borderline Personality Disorder, and the list of mental illnesses goes on. By all means, they could be in a really bad way and scroll across that posted question. And, due to the lack of ability to reason when we are in this state of mind, may cause another life to be lost to suicide.
All because an uneducated person felt like being malicious. The person had to have been intent on starting some pretty heated arguments. And for what? His own sick entertainment. Regardless, his question was abusive. What are your thoughts? Post them in the comments below.
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